I have found this article (called “Expression of love”) on the internet few years ago while I surfed. Today I just organized my stuff on my computer and I found it again and I thought that I share it here. 
Expression of love
“According to one Dr Gary Chapman, we hear expressions of love in different ways, and invariably, a husband and wife do not have the same love language. He listed five languages:
Words:These people would need to hear things like “I Love You”, “Thank You”, “Yes, dear, you are beautiful”, “Yes dear you are right and I am wrong” being spoken by their loved ones. They want feelings to be expressed in words. They also like to say such words to their loved ones.
Gifts:These people give (and expect) gifts as an expression of love. A key-chain when they go overseas, or a bouquet of flowers during birthdays or any thing else that says “I was thinking of you when I saw this”.
Quality Time: These folks see spending time together as an expression of love. For example, taking their wife when they go fishing, taking their husband when they go shopping…
Touch:These people need a hug or just holding each other’s hand as a way to say they love each other.
Acts of Service:To these people it’s like “Don’t talk about love, SHOW me”. For example, helping their wife hanging out the laundry or taking care of the children while she goes out with her friends, are examples of showing that they love their spouse. Also, cooking their husband’s favourite dishes eventhough cooking is not their forte, also shows the same thing and also vice versa.
It is important that you find out from your partner, which one is their love language. It could be all 5 or just one.
I remember when I first got married, I was quite dissappointed when my husband didn’t make my birthday such a big a deal because in my family, we make an effort to remember everyone’s birthday and send a card or give a gift to them. We spent the day with dinner (Quality Time), but I was expecting gifts ;-). After talking with him only did I learn that in his family, birthdays are not a big thing - he doesn’t even remember his siblings or parents’ birthdays and they never wish him on his either - so, he can’t relate to what I expected. That saved us a lot of hardship, I guess as now we understand each other better and know what each other need.Even simple things like him making sure he fills up my car’s tank when it’s almost empty because he knows that I HATE filling up gas by myself (Acts of Service) shows me that he loves me without having to shower me with gifts. So, find out from your partner how they express their love, and maybe you’ll find that he/she has been expressing them to you all this while and you never realize it.”
Original article:
http://liadevega.blogspot.com/2009/06/expression-of-love.html
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